November 19th, 2005 by emilia-vb
Abstinence means different things to different people, just as "sex" can mean different things. If you are not having sex, because you want to be safe from STIs (including HIV) and prevent an unwanted pregnancy, then abstinence means not having oral, anal or vaginal intercourse. Choosing if and when you are going to have sex is a personal decision. It’s your body and the decision whether or not to have sex is entirely up to you.
But not having sex doesn’t have to be a lifetime choice. There are different ways to abstain:
Wait until you are ready. Sex is as much emotional as it is physical, and if you’re only having sex because your partner wants to or because other people are telling you to, then you don’t have to do it. It’s your decision. Waiting until you are married, or until you are in a committed relationship with someone you trust are completely acceptable choices.
Take a break. Perhaps you’ve tried sex but don’t want to do it again for a while, because you’re not in a relationship, you don’t want to put yourself at any kind of risk or you felt that you weren’t really ready for the experiences you’ve already had. If you want to stop having sex for a while then that’s fine. A break can last a week or a year - it’s up to you.
Delay for one night. If you and your partner don’t have a condom, or if sex doesn’t feel right at the time, then don’t do it.
Whatever your reason, it’s your decision. Just because you’re not having sex doesn’t mean that you can’t have a good time or be intimate with your partner.
Relationships are about a lot more than just sex and there are more ways than having sex to get close to someone. Sometimes sex can make things a lot more complicated in a relationship, especially if each person doesn’t fully understand how the other feels. It’s a good idea to talk to your partner about sex, about what it means to you - your worries, your expectations, your previous experiences. Communication in any relationship is extremely important.
A lot of people will make you think that everyone’s doing it - but they’re not! If it works for you then you can feel good about your decision to wait a while. After all, no sex is the safest sex of all.
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November 17th, 2005 by emilia-vb
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Today, women account for nearly 50% of all infections worldwide, and among people under the age of 24 living with HIV, two thirds are women. For biological reasons, women are about twice as likely as men to get infected by HIV during sex.
Women’s position in society also makes them much more vulnerable. In many parts of the world, women are not granted the freedom to choose how to protect themselves or to control when their partners use a condom.
Education and Prevention
Education is the most powerful tool in the fight against HIV/AIDS. Knowledge about how HIV is transmitted and how to prevent infection is a key defence in the spread of HIV. But in many societies, girls and young women do not have easy access to such information due to a lack of education. They are also denied access to prevention services, such as male or female condoms.
It is vital that women everywhere are provided with information and access to prevention methods that they can control. (Microbicides, a substance that can come in the form of a gel but is still being developed, could provide women with such control).
Protection, Respect and the Role of Men
Women, both married and unmarried, are put at risk of contracting HIV by the behaviour of others. In many parts of the world, marriage and long-term relationships do not protect women from HIV and their lack of social power and economic independence mean that women have to rely on men’s cooperation to protect them from HIV.
Shockingly, more than a fifth of all girls and young women report that their first sexual encounter was forced. Across the world, women are also being exploited through trafficking and sex work. Women must be protected from violence and exploitation to prevent the spread of HIV/AIDS. Men have a key role to play here - they need to be involved by making sure that women are less vulnerable and by respecting women’s choices. |
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November 7th, 2005 by emilia-vb
after 1 week holiday i feel just so lazy to go bec for classes on wednesday…i had planned to do some reading up on my jurisprudence but as usual that never happens…instead all i did was shopping, enjoying rendang and all the murukus that my neighbours gave, put on a lot of weight..sigh! and the worst thing is i need to drive bec to kl tomorrow..gosh!!i just hope that there will be no jam on the highway or else i will surely turn bec n go home to sleep… i just remembered that i bought some dvds so i guess i will be spending the whole nite watching one after another til my eyes pop out!!
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October 2nd, 2005 by emilia-vb
have u ever… felt that sometimes u r not satisfied with the way people treat u but u just can’t say it out loud cuz u might jes end up hurting that person’s feelings? have u ever… done something totally stupid and regret it later just b’cuz u wanted to please someone? have u ever…wanted to tell a person something but thinking u might end up embarrasing yourself so instead u decide to keep the secret to urself? have u ever…contemplated doing something but the negative thought of it stops u from doing it??
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September 23rd, 2005 by emilia-vb
For ages, women have come together over coffee, cocktails or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men.
He’s afraid to get hurt again.
Maybe he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship.
Maybe he’s intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship.
Men are not complicated, although they’d like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages.
The truth may be He’s just not that into you.
Unfortunately, guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, "You’re not the one." But their actions absolutely show how they feel.
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September 15th, 2005 by emilia-vb
was watching horror movies the whole night yesterday and guess what i could not sleep cuz i kept imagining all kinds of things. it’s always that way, i know i won’t be able to sleep but i still insist on watching…y do i like to scare myself?? and now i think i wanna go see my cousin cook some prawns sambal and maybe try to learn how to cook ..hopefully i don’t run away after a few minutes like i always do.
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September 15th, 2005 by emilia-vb
| I used to think that I was strong |
| I realise now I was wrong |
| ‘Cause every time I see your face |
| My mind becomes an empty space |
| And with you lying next to me |
| Feels Like I can hardly breathe |
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| I close my eyes |
| The moment I surrender to you |
| Let love be blind |
| Innocent and tenderly true |
| So lead me through tonight |
| But please turn out the light |
| ‘Cause I’m lost every time I look at you |
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September 14th, 2005 by emilia-vb
I wanna love you forever
And this is all I’m asking of you
10,000 lifetimes together
Is that so much for you to do?
Cuz from the moment that I saw your face
And felt the fire in your sweet embrace
I swear I knew.
I’m gonna love you forever
My mind fails to understand
What my heart tells me to do
And I’d give up all I have just to be with you
And that would do
I’ve always been taught to win
And I never thought I’d fall
Be at the mercy of a man
I’ve never been
Now I only want to be right where you are.
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September 14th, 2005 by emilia-vb
"I suppose you can’t have everything, though my instinctive response to this sentiment is always, ‘Why not?"
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September 11th, 2005 by emilia-vb
" You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face…You must do the thing you cannot do."
— Eleanor Roosevelt
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